JOURNAL PROMPTS
The journal prompts in The Ethereal Pleasure Oasis are here for the part of your journey that happens after the experience — when you want to sit with what came up, make meaning of it, and understand yourself more deeply.
Pleasure isn’t only something you feel in the moment. It’s something you learn about over time.
And journaling is one of the simplest ways to build a real relationship with your desire, your boundaries, your confidence, and your body.
These prompts are intentionally designed to help you reflect. They guide you through the emotional layers of pleasure — the tenderness, the curiosity, the hesitation, the growth. Sometimes you’ll discover what you love.
Sometimes you’ll notice what’s been holding you back.
Sometimes you’ll just feel more connected to yourself than you did before.
You don’t need to be a writer. You don’t need to have the perfect words. This is just a space to be honest, to explore, and to let your thoughts land somewhere safe. Over time, these reflections become proof of your expansion — a record of how you’re coming home to yourself.
The prompts are here to support you, deepen the practices, and remind you that this work isn’t about rushing. It’s about understanding. It’s about intimacy. It’s about you.
People Pleasing & Setting Boundaries
If anyone can relate when it comes to a battle with people-pleasing and boundary-setting struggles it’s me. It’s important for us to remember that this often comes from deep DEEP conditioning, so journaling can be a powerful way to uncover the “why” and gently practice new ways of being.
How Do Journal Prompts Help?: Prompts give you tools to track, notice, and nurture the connection between your emotional world and your turn-on.
Journaling Tips:
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Grab your favorite notebook and pen
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Create a safe and quiet space for you to write and reflect (feel free to bring a glass of water or light a candle or maybe even both!)
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For gentle healing: pick one journal prompt a day
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For a deeper healing: reflect and answer all 10 journal prompts (whether in one day or within a weeks span)
Here are 16 additional prompts you can work through, try freewriting without censoring yourself, even if it feels messy at first:
Awareness: Noticing Patterns
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When was the last time I said “yes” when I wanted to say “no”? How did it feel in my body afterward?
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What do I fear might happen if I disappoint someone?
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In what situations do I tend to silence my own needs? Why?
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How do I usually know when I’ve crossed my own boundary (anger, resentment, exhaustion, guilt, etc.)?
Roots of People-Pleasing
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Growing up, what messages did I receive about being “good,” “kind,” or “easy to get along with”?
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Who in my life did I feel I had to please in order to be safe, loved, or accepted?
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What role did conflict play in my childhood home?
Reframing Boundaries
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What does the word “boundary” mean to me right now? What emotions come up when I think about setting one?
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What do I gain by not enforcing my boundaries? What do I lose?
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What would it feel like in my body to have my boundaries respected and honored?
Practicing New Scripts
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If I could rewrite one recent situation where I betrayed my needs, what would I say or do differently?
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What are some compassionate but firm phrases I could practice saying instead of automatically saying “yes”? (e.g., “Let me get back to you,” “That doesn’t work for me,” etc.)
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What small boundary could I set this week that feels manageable but meaningful?
Self-Compassion & Support
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How do I want to be treated when I say “no”?
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How can I remind myself that my needs matter as much as others’?
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What would I say to a loved one who was struggling with people-pleasing? Can I offer that same grace to myself?
Love Tip: After writing, please check in with your body. Notice tension, relief, or even your emotions rising. Sometimes, our wisdom shows up not only in words but in how your body reacts.
The Link Between Emotions & Arousal
Heads up: stress and turn-on don’t always mix.
Although a great orgasm can provide a much needed Dopamine boost, this simply isn’t always the case.
When your brain is buzzing, your body might not be. That’s normal! The mind-body connection is something that isn’t talked about much because then, that would require a major societal shift and change in the way that we look at the tie between our emotions, pleasure and arousal.
At the Oasis, we help you connect the dots using breath, laughter, and some body magic to help your emotions and arousal play nice together.
How Do Journal Prompts Help?: Prompts give you tools to track, notice, and nurture the connection between your emotional world and your turn-on.
Journaling Tips:
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Grab your favorite notebook and pen
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Create a safe and quiet space for you to write and reflect (feel free to bring a glass of water or light a candle or maybe even both!)
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For gentle healing: pick one journal prompt a day
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For a deeper healing: reflect and answer all 10 journal prompts (whether in one day or within a weeks span)
Your Journal Prompts:
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How do my current emotions, stress, joy, sadness, excitement affect how my body responds to pleasure?
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When I notice tension, anxiety, or distraction in my body, how does it impact my ability to feel arousal?
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How do positive emotions like curiosity, playfulness, or love enhance my sexual and sensual experiences?
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In what moments have I felt emotionally disconnected from my body, and what can help me reconnect?
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How does my mood before intimacy (solo or partnered) influence the quality of my pleasure?
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What patterns do I notice between my emotional states and the type or intensity of arousal I experience?
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How can I use breath, touch, or mindfulness to help my emotions and arousal coexist harmoniously?
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When I feel emotionally triggered during sexual experiences, how can I respond with curiosity rather than judgment?
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What role does emotional safety play in helping me fully experience pleasure?
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How can journaling about my feelings and arousal help me better understand the connection between my mind and body?
Receiving & Deserving Pleasure
Why is it sometimes easier to give than to receive? (Especially when it comes to pleasure!) At the Academy, we’re all about helping you rewire that.
Gentle Reminder: You deserve joy, goosebumps, and ooh-la-la moments just because you exist not because you worked for it. Practicing receiving isn’t selfish, it's actually sexy self-care.
As I say all the time “Pleasure is your Birthright” it is not something you have to EARN because it’s a part of who you are, pleasure is simply hiding in your being, waiting for permission to flow through you.
How Do Journal Prompts Help?: The following prompts will guide you to explore your worthiness and practice the art of receiving with open arms.
Journaling Tips:
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Grab your favorite notebook and pen
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Create a safe and quiet space for you to write and reflect (feel free to bring a glass of water or light a candle or maybe even both!)
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For gentle healing: pick one journal prompt a day
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For a deeper healing: reflect and answer all 15 journal prompts (whether in one day or within a weeks span)
Your Journal Prompts:
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How do I feel when I allow myself to receive pleasure without needing to “earn” it?
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What beliefs or messages have I internalized about whether I deserve pleasure, and where did they come from?
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When I notice resistance to pleasure, what emotions or fears are present in my body?
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How would my life feel if I fully accepted that pleasure is my birthright?
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What past experiences have influenced how comfortable I feel receiving pleasure from myself or others?
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How do I respond to compliments, touch, or kindness, and what does that reveal about my capacity to receive pleasure?
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In what ways can I practice asking for what I want or need without guilt or hesitation?
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How does giving pleasure compare to receiving it for me, and what patterns do I notice?
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What small acts of self-care or indulgence could I allow myself today to practice receiving pleasure?
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How do societal or cultural expectations shape my beliefs about deserving pleasure, and how can I release them?
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What would it feel like to celebrate my body, desires, and sensuality openly and unapologetically?
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How can I create boundaries that protect my pleasure while allowing me to fully receive it?
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What affirmations or mantras can I use to remind myself that I am worthy of joy, intimacy, and delight?
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How do I respond internally when I feel pleasure, and how can I cultivate more gratitude and acceptance in those moments?
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If I could visualize myself fully receiving pleasure emotionally, physically, and spiritually what would that look like?
Comparing Yourself to Porn or Social Media Bodies
Social media filters and porn edits are about as real as unicorns. Comparing yourself to them? A losing game. Your body, your orgasms and your belly rolls are PURE art.
It’s okay if you don’t take selfies like your favorite influencer with the 4k camera and the full on lighting set up + filters. It’s okay if you don’t moan and shake the same as that girl in that erotic video you saw last week. It’s okay if you’re slim and it’s okay if you’re thicker than a snicker.
The point is, you are actually more than “okay” you are divinely, phenomenally you! If you were supposed to be like the others, then you would be, but you’re not, you’re perfectly you and that's exactly what the world needs right now.
Allow us to help you stop doom-scrolling and start mirror-dancing. Forget flawless. Let’s go for fabulously unapologetically YOU.
How Do Journal Prompts Help?: Prompts here help you call out the lies, celebrate your reality, and reclaim confidence in your own skin.
Journaling Tips:
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Grab your favorite notebook and pen
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Create a safe and quiet space for you to write and reflect (feel free to bring a glass of water or light a candle or maybe even both!)
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For gentle healing: pick one journal prompt a day
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For a deeper healing: reflect and answer all 15 journal prompts (whether in one day or within a weeks span)
Your Journal Prompts:
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When I scroll through social media or see pornography, what thoughts and emotions arise about my own body?
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How do I feel in my body immediately after comparing myself to edited or curated images, and what sensations can I notice?
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What messages about “ideal” bodies did I internalize growing up, and how do they affect my self-image today?
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In what ways have comparison and judgment impacted my ability to feel pleasure or connect with my body?
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How would my relationship with my body shift if I focused on what feels good and alive rather than what looks perfect?
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What unique qualities or features of my body do I celebrate, even if they don’t match societal ideals?
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How can I reframe the influence of social media or porn as inspiration rather than a measure of my worth or desirability?
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What practices (mirror work, affirmations, touch, movement) help me reconnect with my body’s beauty and pleasure on my own terms?
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When I notice myself comparing, what gentle reminders or self-compassion techniques can I use to come back to my own body?
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How would I describe my body to a friend or loved one with admiration and warmth, can I say the same to myself?
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What role does curiosity about my body play in helping me move away from comparison and toward connection?
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How do I define “beauty” and “desirability” on my own terms, outside of media standards?
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What feelings or stories arise when I think about the differences between my body and bodies I see online, and how can I honor those feelings?
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If I could write a manifesto of self-love for my body today, what statements would it include?
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How can I intentionally cultivate moments of pleasure or joy that are completely free from comparison to others?
Aging, Libido, & Hormones
Spoiler: your sexiness doesn’t have an expiration date. It just changes flavors.
Maybe what worked at 25 doesn’t hit the same at 55 and what felt amazing at 55 feels a little bit different at the age of 67. Guess what, that’s totally okay and is actually completely normal. From hormonal fluctuations (again, normal), to a change in sexual desires and libido (also normal) there are endless lists of factors that play into why our desires and bodies change and evolve as we age.
The best part about aging is that you get to grow a deeper and wiser relationship with yourself every single day that passes. You have the opportunity to meet yourself over and over and over again! Learning what you love, what you need and what your newest wants and desires are.
At The Ethereal Pleasure Oasis, we celebrate every stage. Think of it like a playlist that evolves with your vibe: always sexy, just remixed.
Prompts help you reflect on what turns you on now, so you can embrace evolving pleasure instead of fearing it.
Journaling Tips:
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Grab your favorite notebook and pen
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Create a safe and quiet space for you to write and reflect (feel free to bring a glass of water or light a candle or maybe even both!)
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For gentle healing: pick one journal prompt a day
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For a deeper healing: reflect and answer all 10 journal prompts (whether in one day or within a weeks span)
Your Journal Prompts:
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How has my sexual desire or libido shifted over time, and what messages have I carried about these changes?
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What cultural or personal beliefs about aging and sexuality influence how I feel about my body and pleasure today?
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How do my hormones affect my energy, mood, or desire, and how can I listen to those signals without judgment?
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When I honor my changing body, what new types of pleasure or sensations have I discovered?
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What fears or frustrations arise around aging and sexuality, and how can I reframe them as opportunities for growth or curiosity?
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How can I celebrate the ways my sexual expression evolves over the decades, rather than comparing it to the past?
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What practices, rituals, or self-care habits support my libido and sense of sensuality at this stage in life?
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How do I feel about experimenting with different kinds of touch, fantasy, or erotic play as my body changes?
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What does pleasure mean to me now, and how has that definition expanded or shifted with age and experience?
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How can I cultivate patience, compassion, and curiosity toward my body and desire as it naturally changes over time?
Menstruation & Self-Pleasure
Periods get a bad rap, but they can actually be a juicy time for self-connection.
Some folks and also scientific studies have found that orgasms can ease cramps (and supercharge your energy.)
Cuddling up with a heating pad and a vibrator sounds like a great moon cycle to ME.
I’m here to help you make peace with your cycle and maybe even fall in love with it.
How Do Journal Prompts Help?: Prompts invite you to explore new ways of honoring your cycle and weaving in pleasure rather than shame.
Journaling Tips:
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Grab your favorite notebook and pen
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Create a safe and quiet space for you to write and reflect (feel free to bring a glass of water or light a candle or maybe even both!)
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For gentle healing: pick one journal prompt a day
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For a deeper healing: reflect and answer all 10 journal prompts (whether in one day or within a weeks span)
Your Journal Prompts:
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How does my body feel during menstruation, and what signals or sensations might I explore through gentle self-touch or pleasure?
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What beliefs or stories have I learned about periods and sexuality, and how do they shape how I experience pleasure during this time?
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How does connecting with my body through self-pleasure during my period change my relationship with my cycle?
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When I honor my body’s needs during menstruation, what emotions or sensations arise that I might usually overlook?
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What practices (heat, touch, breathwork, or movement) make me feel comforted, alive, or sensually connected while menstruating?
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How do I feel about orgasming on my period, and what fears or judgments come up around it?
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In what ways can I turn my menstruation into a sacred, pleasurable, or self-nurturing ritual?
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How does my libido shift throughout my cycle, and what does that teach me about my body’s natural rhythms and desires?
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What stories or shame around periods am I ready to release, so I can fully embrace pleasure at any stage of my cycle?
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How can journaling, self-touch, or mindful rituals during menstruation help me cultivate curiosity, acceptance, and joy in my body?
Why Can’t I Orgasm?
First things first this is an IMPORTANT gentle reminder: you’re not broken.
If your orgasm feels elusive, it’s not because you’re defective, it’s because bodies are quirky.
Heterosexual beliefs have taught us that a man and a woman have sex and then we cum together and then we’re done. If you have ever had sex with a man, you know that is just simply not usually true. (LOL)
It wasn’t until I had my first lesbian sexual experience that I learned the ENTIRE experience is supposed to feel amazing, tingly, buzzy, exciting and FUN. I had such a good time that I didn’t care if I orgasmed “at the end” because the entire experience made my heart feel so much joy that everything felt orgasmic!
At the Oasis, we ditch the pressure of climax and focus on play. Think of it like an adventure map where the treasure is… well, YOU.
There’s no gold to find because you’ve already found it (hint: it’s still you, you are the gold.)
How Do Journal Prompts Help?: The prompts here help release pressure, spotlight your unique body map, and bring playfulness back into pleasure.
Journaling Tips:
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Grab your favorite notebook and pen
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Create a safe and quiet space for you to write and reflect (feel free to bring a glass of water or light a candle or maybe even both!)
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For gentle healing: pick one journal prompt a day
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For a deeper healing: reflect and answer all 10 journal prompts (whether in one day or within a weeks span)
Your Journal Prompts:
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When I notice my body isn’t reaching orgasm, what thoughts, emotions, or judgments come up, and how do they affect my experience?
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What beliefs have I internalized about orgasm that might create pressure, performance anxiety, or shame?
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How does my body respond differently in moments of relaxation versus moments of stress or distraction, and what does that tell me?
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If I let go of the goal of orgasm, what sensations, feelings, or discoveries could I notice instead?
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What past sexual experiences have influenced how I expect my body to respond, and are those expectations still helpful?
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How do I communicate my desires, boundaries, and needs to myself and/or a partner, and what could I explore improving?
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When I imagine orgasm as a form of play and curiosity rather than performance, how does my body respond?
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What rituals, breathwork, or self-touch practices help me feel safe and connected to my body during sexual exploration?
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How do emotional states (stress, sadness, excitement, or joy) impact my ability to reach orgasm, and how can I honor those feelings?
What small steps or experiments could I try to better understand what brings me pleasure without judgment or pressure?
Daily Rituals for Feeling Sensual
Sensuality = everyday magic.
Sensuality can be found in everything you do. It’s in the hot shower that feels like a hug, the slow lick of a vegan ice cream cone, or the silk of your sheets touching your skin.
The following prompts teach you how to sprinkle sensual rituals into your daily grind until pleasure feels as normal as brushing your teeth (but way more fun).
How Do Journal Prompts Help?: Prompts help you design tiny daily practices that keep your senses lit up and your body smiling.
Journaling Tips:
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Grab your favorite notebook and pen
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Create a safe and quiet space for you to write and reflect (feel free to bring a glass of water or light a candle or maybe even both!)
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For gentle healing: pick one journal prompt a day
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For a deeper healing: reflect and answer all 10 journal prompts (whether in one day or within a weeks span)
Your Journal Prompts:
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What small moments in my day already make me feel sensual, alive, or fully present in my body?
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How do my senses, touch, smell, taste, sight, and sound invite pleasure into everyday life?
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If I could design a morning or evening ritual to feel more connected to my body and desires, what would it include?
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What textures, scents, or movements make me feel most awakened and in tune with my body?
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How do I honor my skin, hair, and body through touch or movement, and how could I deepen that practice?
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When I slow down to notice my body, what sensations or feelings arise that I usually overlook?
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How can I transform ordinary daily tasks (like showering, cooking, or walking) into moments of sensual awareness?
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What small indulgences like candles, music, or a warm bath help me feel more playful, soft, and sensual?
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How do I feel when I take time for myself to nurture my senses and sensuality, and what resistance shows up?
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What daily habit could I start today to make my body feel celebrated, joyful, and connected to pleasure?
Pleasure Without a Partner
Plot twist: you don’t need a partner to feel fireworks.
Contrary to popular belief it shouldn’t be that revolutionary to choose ourselves but in a world where we are forced to focus on everyone but us, it IS revolutionary when you can finally say “I want to focus on ME.”
Some of us go out on the daily, hoping that will be the day we’ll meet “the one” and when we don’t, instead of going on a journey towards becoming “the one” for ourselves, we rise, recycle and repeat the same patterns until we find ourselves in some half ass, loveless relationship feeling lonelier than we did when we were single!
But what if I told you that you are already your best lover?
The following journal prompts will show you how to flirt with yourself, romance yourself, and throw solo date nights that leave you glowing.
How Do Journal Prompts Help?: The prompts give you playful ways to explore independence and self-romance.
Journaling Tips:
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Grab your favorite notebook and pen
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Create a safe and quiet space for you to write and reflect (feel free to bring a glass of water or light a candle or maybe even both!)
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For gentle healing: pick one journal prompt a day
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For a deeper healing: reflect and answer all 10 journal prompts (whether in one day or within a weeks span)
Your Journal Prompts:
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When I imagine giving myself pleasure, what emotions come up? Curiosity, excitement, guilt, or something else?
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How do I currently define solo pleasure, and what beliefs or stories might be limiting me from fully enjoying it?
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What small, sensual acts can I incorporate into my day that help me feel connected to my body without needing a partner?
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How would it feel to treat myself as the lover I’ve always wanted? Gentle, playful, attentive, indulgent?
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When have I felt deeply satisfied or connected to myself in moments of solo pleasure, and what made those moments special?
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What fears, judgments, or cultural messages arise when I think about enjoying pleasure alone, and how can I release them?
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If I designed a solo date night just for myself, what activities, sensations, or rituals would I include to feel fully celebrated? (Bonus: Set a date for your solo date and stick to it)
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How does connecting with my body without a partner help me understand my desires, boundaries, and pleasure preferences better?
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What would it mean for me to view solo pleasure as a form of empowerment rather than a temporary fix or guilty pleasure?
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How can I use journaling, movement, or self-touch to explore my desires, curiosity, and erotic energy safely and joyfully on my own?
Understanding the Erotic Self
Your erotic self isn’t just about sex, it’s the sensual part of you that feels alive when you eat mangoes, dance in your kitchen naked, or wear that outfit that makes you feel unstoppable.
She’s playful, bold, and always within you. She’s the deeper part of you that patiently awaits for you to allow her enchantment to take over your entire body.
In the Oasis, we help you invite her out to play more often.
How Do Journal Prompts Help?: The prompts nudge you toward discovering and celebrating your erotic identity beyond the bedroom.
Journaling Tips:
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Grab your favorite notebook and pen
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Create a safe and quiet space for you to write and reflect (feel free to bring a glass of water or light a candle or maybe even both!)
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For gentle healing: pick one journal prompt a day
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For a deeper healing: reflect and answer all 23 journal prompts (whether in one day or within a weeks span)
Your Journal Prompts:
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When I hear the word “erotic,” what emotions, images, or stories come to mind and do they feel expansive or limiting?
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How do I currently define my erotic self, and what parts of me have I not yet explored or expressed?
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In what moments (big or small) do I feel most alive, sensual, or connected to my body?
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If my erotic self had a personality, how would she move, speak, and dress and what would she desire most?
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What cultural, religious, or family messages shaped my early beliefs about eroticism, and which ones am I ready to release?
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How does my erotic energy show up outside of sex? In art, creativity, friendships, or the way I move through the world?
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What fears hold me back from fully embracing my erotic self, and how can I gently begin to move through them?
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If I imagined my erotic self as a sacred guide, what wisdom would she share with me about pleasure and power?
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How do I want my erotic self to be seen by me, by lovers, and by the world?
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What daily practices (dance, touch, ritual, affirmations) could help me nurture and express my erotic self more freely?
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How would I describe my erotic self today, and how has that description shifted over the years?
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What early memories shaped how I think about eroticism, and are those memories still influencing me now?
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In what non-sexual moments (like dancing, cooking, laughing) do I feel the most erotic and alive?
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If my erotic self had a name or archetype, what would it be and why?
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How does my erotic energy express itself in my relationships with myself, with lovers, with friends?
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What emotions (like guilt, shame, joy, freedom) get stirred when I imagine fully embodying my erotic self?
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How does creativity connect to my erotic energy, and what practices help me feel more expressive?
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Where in my body do I feel my erotic energy most strongly, and how can I honor those sensations?
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What fears or blocks keep me from living out my fullest erotic expression, and what would life feel like if I moved through them?
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If I could design an environment that fully supports my erotic self, what would it look, sound, smell, and feel like?
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What affirmations or words of power could I speak daily to honor and celebrate my erotic self?
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If I allowed myself to explore eroticism as sacred instead of shameful, how would my relationship to pleasure transform?
What one step can I take today to welcome, honor, and celebrate my erotic self more fully?
Letting Go of Religious or Cultural Shame
If you’ve ever heard “good girls don’t do that” and rolled your eyes…welcome home!
I have this belief that organized religion (or as I like to call it unorganized religion) was created solely as a measure of control.
The goal? To disconnect people from their own intuitions, forcing them to believe their inner knowing would actually come from an outside source.
But what if I told you that your inner knowing still exists and is just WAITING for you to feel safe enough to explore her?
I know the weight of cultural and religious shame, and I also know how good it feels to shake it off. Here at The Oasis, we don’t erase your roots of shame but we do help you rewrite the story so your pleasure can bloom alongside your spirit.
How Do Journal Prompts Help?: Prompts here allow you to honor where you’ve been while creating new beliefs that celebrate your wholeness.
Journaling Tips:
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Grab your favorite notebook and pen
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Create a safe and quiet space for you to write and reflect (feel free to bring a glass of water or light a candle or maybe even both!)
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For gentle healing: pick one journal prompt a day
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For a deeper healing: reflect and answer all 10 journal prompts (whether in one day or within a weeks span)
Your Journal Prompts:
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What early religious or cultural messages shaped the way I view my body and sexuality, and how do those messages still live within me today?
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When I think about the word “shame,” what memories or teachings come to mind, and how have they influenced how I express pleasure?
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What parts of myself (desires, curiosities, identities) did I hide because I was told they were sinful, dirty, or “too much”?
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How do I feel in my body when I remember those messages of shame, and what gentle practices could help me soften those feelings?
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What aspects of my cultural or religious upbringing actually empowered me and how can I separate those from the parts that harmed me?
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If I could write a loving letter to the younger version of myself who felt guilt or shame around pleasure, what would I say to comfort her?
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In what ways do I still censor myself (in words, clothing, touch, or desire) out of fear of being judged by cultural or religious standards?
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What would freedom feel like if I no longer carried the weight of shame and how would I move, love, touch, and celebrate myself?
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Who are the role models, ancestors, or spiritual figures (real or imagined) that give me permission to embrace my sexuality with reverence and joy?
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What new story, mantra, or affirmation can I create for myself that honors both my spirituality/culture and my right to pleasure?
Bonus: Check out my workbook UNASHAMED: Dismantling Sexual Shame & Prioritizing Personal Pleasure to continue this very powerful work.