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How To Enjoy Anal Play

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Quick question…

Why do we make Anal seem like it’s a scary boogy man that’s been hiding under our bed for years waiting to attack us at any moment?

In some groups of friends, finding out that your homegirl eats ass is astronomical (and in the fun friend groups it’s normalized.)

For me, it was simply ignorance. 

I had no idea about the wonders and the magic that the little holes in our booties can create! Afterall, it literally assists in helping us expel our toxins and although it doesn’t always smell that great, it’s what helps keep our bodies aligned and clean internally.

Societally, we have created sooooo much shame around Anal pleasure for people with P’s and V’s, so it’s expected that a lot of of us would have to do a little extra work and a lot of additional research before trusting our bodies (or partners if we have them) and giving it a go.

And when I say we I mean WE, I’m talking about myself as well. Over the years I created this imaginary fear of anal play in my head too. Although there was a time when I became very curious about it over the last three years, I realized I still had my own stigmas surrounding anal pleasure. Damn society. Damn shame.

The fears that I think lingered the most for me were.

“What if I poop?”

“What if I lose the toy inside of me?”

“What if it hurts?”

Something tells me these are the three most common worries of my fellow peers as well and maybe even YOU!

My Recent Experience With Anal

I’ve had my ass licked before, from the rooter to the tooter. 

I remember the person I was with had given me oral for an entire hour and when he was approaching the grand finale he caressed his tongue in, on and around my anus.

Normally I’d be paranoid; what if he got a little dootie in his mouth? What if I passed gas? I am a pretty gassy person. But I had also just gotten out of the shower and hadn’t pooped in about 24 hours so I was able to finally relax into the moment and truly enjoy myself.

Important Sidenote: Going from the rooter (your booty) to the tooter (your vulva) can actually cause a yeast infection or bacterial infection, thankfully I got out scotts free (who even is scott) but sometimes we are not always so lucky.

The other day I was warming myself up, getting relaxed and ready for a solo play session. I’d just received my Enigma Wave from LELO and I was really, really horny.

You know how I KNOW I was capital H Horny? Because I began to feel a light tingling in my anus and I’m not talking about the kinda itch you get when you have a parasite. I’m talking about a turned on kind of tingle, the kind of tingle that whispered “come here” and THAT I did.

After I decided I was done using the vibrating part of the toy on my vulva, I moved it down to my anus and when I tell you that my head almost popped off from all of the pleasure I felt!

It was a new kind of pleasure, a deep pleasure. The only way I could describe it is I felt the pleasure in the back of my body and I normally feel it in the front. Do with that information what you’d like.

After reading all of this, if you’re STILL not open to the idea of anal pleasure that’s okay, as long as it’s an informed choice that you’re making and isn’t a shamefilled or stigmatized decision. Anal isn’t for every booty, I mean body and that’s totally valid.

If you ARE into what you’ve read so far or really don’t know, here are some fun myths and facts that are good to know before anal exploration.

Truths & Myths About Your Anus

MYTH: Anal pleasure is only for gay men.

TRUTH: Nope. It’s for anyone with a butt. (Which, last time I checked, is everyone.)The anus is full of nerve endings just waiting to be invited to the party. No specific orientation required.

MYTH: It’s supposed to hurt.

TRUTH: If it hurts, it’s a clear sign that someone skipped the foreplay, the patience, or the lube.Your body isn’t saying “no” to pleasure but pain is your body signaling you to “slow your roll.”

MYTH: It’s dirty.

TRUTH: It’s a butt, not a biohazard zone.All you need is a good rinse or gentle prep and you’ll be fine. Honestly, it’s less about what’s in your body and more about what’s in your head (like the shame that doesn’t even belong to you.)

MYTH: You don’t need lube.

TRUTH: Oh baby, yes you do, during all forms of pleasure.The anus is minimally self lubricating (and that’s just the mucus that helps poop come out) which means it technically doesn’t self-lubricate enough, so if you skip lube, you’re basically inviting friction to ruin your night and your relationship with anal. Be generous when applying the lube, think slip n’ slide, not sandpaper.

MYTH: Anal sex is unsafe.

TRUTH: Just like with any kind of partnered sex, it’s only unsafe if you skip communication and protection. Use condoms, clean your toys, and listen to your body like it’s the DJ of the night.

When it comes to solo play the same goes for YOU. Make sure you’re communicating with your body and desires and only go when you feel your body giving you the green light to explore. If the green light never comes, it may be time to do some shadow work on what’s holding you back.

MYTH: Anal play makes you less feminine.

TRUTH: Please. Feminine energy is about choice, not performance. Exploring what feels good to you is the ultimate divine feminine act.

MYTH: It replaces vaginal sex.

TRUTH: Different entrance, different vibes. Vaginal sex is rhythm; anal is surrender (although vaginal sex is ALSO surrender). One’s a slow dance, the other’s a trust fall (for yourself and or with a partner). Both can be beautiful when done with love, both deserve to be done slowly and both can help you learn to listen to your body more.

FUN FACT: Some women actually reach orgasm through anal play.There are deep internal pathways between the anus, vagina, and clitoris, it’s all connected. Think of it like WiFi for your pleasure zones.

MYTH: Getting anal pleasure makes you gay.

TRUTH: Orientation is about who you love, not what you like.The prostate (aka the “P-spot”) is basically a built-in pleasure button. Ignoring it out of fear? Tragic.

MYTH: Only women should be penetrated.

TRUTH: Receiving doesn’t make you less masculine, it makes you brave.Surrender is sexy. It takes strength to open up and let yourself feel.

FACT: The prostate can give mind-blowing orgasms.Like “I need to sit down and rethink my life” kind of orgasms. You deserve that kind of peace.

The Bottom Line (pun intended)

Anal pleasure isn’t taboo, it’s just misunderstood.It’s about communication, consent, and curiosity… not porn expectations or ego.When we take the shame out, all that’s left is sensation, connection, and maybe a few giggles along the way.

If you’re looking for a high end, high quality toy and are interested in exploring yourself in an anal kinda way, I think you’ll love the Soraya Beads.

Things i’ve learned after trying anal:

1. It shouldn’t & won’t hurt if you take the right steps to prepare for Anal.

2. The mood must be set and you must be aroused (this goes for any kind of sex, I can’t harp on this enough)

3. Consent is everything, even with solo play. There’s no rush. Do it when you’re ready.

4. Your anus is capable of helping you reach a new never before felt kind of pleasure.

5. Toys can ABSOLUTELY help. Choose the right one. I recommend the Lelo Soraya Beads.

My two questions for you are:

1. Are you interested in Anal play, if so, what intrigues you? If no, what turns you off from it?

2. What’s stopping you from exploring? If you’ve already explored what do you think can help you expand your pleasure when it comes to anal play?

Reflect on it, breathe and then take whatever next step feels aligned.

Want to learn more about sacred, shame-free pleasure?

If all of this is making you curious (or even a little tingly), I invite you to dive deeper with me inside my Pleasure Library. It’s a cozy online sanctuary that I created just for women like you. It’s a sacred, playful space filled with videos, guided audios, and practical tools to help you explore breathwork, expand your pleasure, and reconnect with your body on a whole new level.

Think of it as your personal treasure chest for pleasure, where science meets sensuality

Ready to explore? Come join the Pleasure Library and let’s breathe, play, and rise together.

I love you to the moon 

Love & Lube

Love Atiya

Founder Of The Ethereal Pleasure Oasis

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