Pleasure Tip: Play With Your Whole Pussy

iloveatiya
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Pleasure Tip: Play With Your Whole Pussy

Can we talk about our anatomy for a moment or maybe… forever? Because, beautiful soul, your body isn't JUST a temple; it's a breathtaking, pleasure-packed amusement park!

(A quick note: I'll be speaking from the space of someone with a vulva, but the message of radical self-discovery and exploring every beautiful inch of your body applies to all genitalia!)

My self-pleasure mantra is simple: Play with your WHOLE Pussy!

Did you know that the stimulation of different zones on your vulva can lead to many different unique kinds of orgasms?

Let’s take a dive in and unfold the full map of your pleasure and explore beyond the well-traveled roads.

Beyond the Button

I LOVE that mostly all of us are now familiar with the clitoris aka the clit, aka clitrella, aka your pleasure button.

Becoming familiar is a giant leap, and it's something we should celebrate because for too long, this pure source of pleasure was neglected.

For those who may need some reacquainting, the clit is that beautiful, "button-like" fleshy part at the top of your vulva that was created solely for pleasure. But don't let its size fool you, society made us believe that’s where the pleasure stops but in reality, it's just the tip of the iceberg!

The clitoris is actually a much larger, wishbone-shaped internal structure, and the external part is connected to deep nerve bundles that wrap around the vaginal canal.

This internal structure is what's often stimulated when you're targeting your anterior wall, the spot many of us know as the G-spot! This means pleasure is interconnected and woven throughout all of you!

Your Lips and Labia

Next, we have the labia majora and labia minora aka your outer lips and your inner lips.

I must say, typing the word “lips” has made realize how funny of a word it is to say! Anyways…

It’s important to remember that your vulva is beautiful just as it is, and those gorgeous folds and edges look different on every single person! If the "perfect" lip, it would be lips that look like yours! My point is, contrary to societal conditioning, all lips are beautiful and all lips are perfect just as they are.

But sometimes when we’re pleasuring ourselves, in the rush for a quick orgasm, we tend to completely neglect this incredibly sensitive part of our pleasure orifice!

Fun Fact: Research on vulval anatomy, sadly, is still far and few between. So while there’s no exact count on the number of nerve endings in the labia, what we do know is that they are rich with sensory nerve endings! This means your lips are designed to thrill you and can absolutely enhance your pleasure!

Try This Pleasure Prescription:

Grab your favorite lube and try a little laboratory experiment:

Try playing with your right lip first, then your left lip.
Stimulate the bottom of your lips and then the top.
Go from the outer edges to the most delicate inner folds.

Do you have a side that’s more sensitive? What happens if you stimulate your clit and, right when you’re on the edge of climax, you move the touch down to the lower part of your lips or even your vaginal entrance? It’s a complete sensory shift! Thank me later.

I love to use my Volea from Femme Funn to stimulate the very bottom of my labia, a spot that normally doesn’t get much play at all! It has a fluttering tip and is shaped like a horseshoe, so it stimulates the top, center, and corners of your vulva simultaneously. And if you want to get really fancy, you can use those velvety tips to tease your vaginal entrance!

Your Grand Entrances: Your Vagina and Anus

Speaking of your vaginal entrance, that’s another zone you can explore that can deliver a completely unique kind of sensation!

This is why "Shallowing" feels so amazing! (I’ve talked about this before on my podcast!)

Shallowing is the gentle stimulation of the entrance of your vagina with a toy, a partner's body part, a finger, or a tongue. This feels FREAKING PHENOMENAL because of all the nerve endings that rest right there at the vestibule.

And the exact same principle applies to your anus! The ring of nerves around that entrance can be mind-blowingly sensitive and deserves some respectful exploration.

Playing with your erogenous zones (which I dive into HERE) can already elevate your orgasm, but if you combine those zones AND play with a new part of your beautiful pussy, you are bound to have an adventure of a lifetime.

Making Pleasure Yours

Sometimes, self-pleasure can feel a little daunting. I understand that everyone didn’t grow up with a mom like mine, that openly talked about the importance of it. So this is your gentle reminder: Every experience is a way to reconnect with yourself, to learn your body's language, and to honor your true desires and needs. Framing it this way can help you remove any lingering shame or fear behind the words "self-pleasure."

I'd love for us to make a vision board for our pleasure! This can be done in January, August or at the very end of the year, it truly doesn’t matter the exact time of the year that you’re reading this.

This vision board can be created virtually or physically. Here are some juicy questions I'd love for you to ponder this month. Grab a journal (or your phone) and let your soul answer!

A Pleasure Visioning Prompt List:

For the Singles: Do you desire a partner? If so, what would that partner look like ideally for you?
For the Coupled: Do you love exploring new boundaries and depths of intimacy with your current partner? How can you add more wonder to your shared pleasure?
The Solo Artist: Do you love being alone? What would the ideal "you time" look like? The time dedicated just to feeding your soul.
How can you reconnect with yourself daily, beyond the moments of sexual pleasure?
What new sensations or parts of yourself would you like to discover sexually this year?
How do you want to feel about yourself in this upcoming year? (Think: radiant, sensual, grounded, confident.)
How do you want to feel about yourself sexually in this upcoming year? (Think: uninhibited, powerful, adventurous.)
What negative thought beliefs or shame do you want to release and leave in the previous year of your pleasure?
What positive thought beliefs about your body and your pleasure do you want to create and birth into your year?

I could go on and on with questions, so I'll leave these here for you for now but if all of this is making you curious (or even a little tingly), I invite you to dive deeper with me inside my Pleasure Library. It’s a cozy online sanctuary that I created just for women like you. It’s a sacred, playful space filled with videos, guided audios, and practical tools to help you explore breathwork, expand your pleasure, and reconnect with your body on a whole new level.

Think of it as your personal treasure chest for pleasure, where science meets sensuality

Ready to explore? Come join the Pleasure Library and let’s breathe, play, and rise together.

I love you to the moon

Love & Lube

Love Atiya

Founder Of The Ethereal Pleasure Oasis

Pleasure Tip: Play With Your Whole Pussy