Becoming Besties With Your Vagina: The Hygiene Tips No One Taught You

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Becoming Besties with my Vulva: The Hygiene Tips No One Taught You

Hiiiiii beautiful souls!

It’s your girl, Love Atiya, and today we are talking about a topic that is near and dear to my heart and my vulva: feminine hygiene.

I know we talk a lot about pleasure and orgasms here, but there is no pleasure without health and confidence, period.

In this blog we’re gonna learn all about becoming absolute BFFs with your vulva.

If you’ve listened to my episode, "Becoming Besties With My Vagina," you know that I’ve had my own journey of reconnecting with my vulva and loving her just as she is.

We’ve all been through it. From the discomfort, to the mysteries, to the sheer annoyance of trying to prevent BV from coming back... it’s a whole emotional arc!

And honestly, for so many people, the basics of cleaning were just never covered. Maybe you didn't have a guardian or someone who felt comfortable enough to teach you these things. Maybe you were taught how to clean yourself but became confused when you were told your vagina was self cleaning but you were also told that your VULVA is your VAGINA?! See how that can be confusing?

It’s okay. It’s no one’s fault, except for the patriarchy and colonization we can definitely blame them.

Here, there’s no room for shame surrounding your body and your pleasure. Consider this your loving, judgment-free crash course in treating your sacred space with love and care. Let’s get you feeling fresh, confident, and balanced!

The #1 Rule: The Sacred Path Of Front to Back

If you take one thing from this blog, let it be this fundamental truth: You must wipe front to back. Meaning you must start wiping from the top of your vulva and end at the back of your anus but NEVER the other way around.

I know, it sounds simple, but it is the most important lesson you can learn to prevent uncomfortable (and sometimes painful) issues.

The Why:

The Front (The Vagina/Urethra): This area is a sensitive ecosystem that works hard to keep itself balanced.

The Back (The Anus): This area is home to all kinds of bacteria like E. coli, that are perfectly fine where they are, but are absolutely not meant to reach your vulva, vagina or urethra.

The Problem: When you wipe back to front, you are dragging that anal bacteria directly toward your vagina and urethra. This is the fast-track ticket to UTIs (Urinary Tract Infections) and can seriously throw off your delicate vaginal pH (normally between 3.8 & 4.5), which can lead to Yeast Infections or Bacterial Vaginosis (BV).

The Solution: Always go from the front (vulva/urethra) straight back toward your buttcrack. Use a fresh piece of toilet paper (or a Besties wipe!) for every pass. Your body will thank you!

Essential Hygiene Points for a Happy Vulva

This is your official checklist for being the best friend your vulva:

Keep it Gentle: Your vagina (not your vulva) is self-cleaning, remember? This is why we never, ever douche, this is some shit the patriarchy made us. Are chimpanzees just out there shoving water up their vaginas? No. Your vulva only needs gentle washing with water, or a mild, unscented, pH-balanced cleanser on the external skin.

Go Commando Sometimes: Try sleeping without underwear to let the area breathe. Moisture build-up is the enemy of a happy pH. I went out on a walk one time wearing a skirt without any panties and felt SO FREE. I walk around my house naked most of the time so my vulva gets to breathe A LOT.

Choose Cotton: Say goodbye to synthetic underwear and materials. Cotton is breathable and moisture-wicking which is known for helping to keep things dry and airy down there. Also remember, whatever we put on our bodies goes right into our bloodstream so treat your skin kindly boo.

Change ASAP: After a heavy workout, swimming, or getting sweaty, change out of your wet clothes immediately. That damp environment is a breeding ground for bad bacteria and you do not want to have to experience a yeast fiesta. (Although it’s normal and if you do there is no need to feel shame around it.

Meet Your New Bestie: The Pre and Probiotic Wipe

This is where my newest obsession comes in! Meet the incredible That's Besties Pre and Probiotic Wipes. When I tell you these beauties helped me transform my relationship with caring for my vulva!!!!

Why are these the holy grail of quick-clean ups and daily refreshes?

The Pre and Probiotics: Besties are not just wipes; they’re a boost for your vulva’s natural defenses. They contain ingredients that help support the healthy bacteria that keep your pH balanced and fend off the bad stuff (a huge win for someone like me who fights to keep BV away!).

They’re Perfectly pH Balanced: Unlike regular wipes that can be too harsh or too fragranced, these unscented wipes are specifically formulated to maintain your natural balance. They’re fragrance free, alcohol free, sulphate free, basically they’re free from all B.S. and use the simplest, cleanest most gentle ingredients.

They’re Vegan, Cruelty-Free & FLUSHABLE: Because we stan a conscious queen who cares about animals, the environment and uses high-quality ingredients. These wipes are the only black owned pre and probiotic, gentle, unscented flushable wipes that you’ll find on the market. Our eco systems (and our vulva) thank them!

The Size: “It’s not my fault I have a heavy flow and a wide set vagina” this isn’t just a quote from the movie Mean Girls. It’s the TRUTH! As someone who does have a heavy flow and a pretty phat punani, I definitely need more than a tug or two of toilet tissue to leave me feeling clean and prefer to use products that cover my entire vulva in one swoop, like Besties! The size of their wipes are SO thoughtful and they’re one of the ways you can tell they were created by a woman.

They are the perfect tool for when you’re out, on the beach, after the gym, or right before a date when you need a little confidence boost.

Besties wipes also make the "front to back" rule feel luxurious and not like a chore.

Don't neglect your best friend downstairs! This is your signal to prioritize self-care, health, and pleasure, starting from the outside in.

You can get 10% off your order of THAT’S BESTIES personal vegan & cruelty-free wipes when you use the code: LOVEATIYA at checkout!

If all of this is making you curious (or even a little tingly), I invite you to dive deeper with me inside my Pleasure Library. It’s a cozy online sanctuary that I created just for women like you. It’s a sacred, playful space filled with videos, guided audios, and practical tools to help you explore breathwork, expand your pleasure, and reconnect with your body on a whole new level.

Think of it as your personal treasure chest for pleasure, where science meets sensuality

Ready to explore? Come join the Pleasure Library and let’s breathe, play and feel pleasure together.

I love you to the moon

Love & Lube

Love Atiya

Founder Of The Ethereal Pleasure Oasis

Becoming Besties With Your Vagina: The Hygiene Tips No One Taught You