What Is Edging & How To Do It

What Is Edging & How To Do It

Hey beautiful souls,

Need something to take the edge off?

I am so excited to share insight into one of my FAVORITE self intimacy practices and yes it can also be practiced with a partner.

This practice is called: EDGING (also known as delayed orgasm but that’s not as cute.)

What is edging?: Edging is basically when you get your body right to the tip of an orgasm but don’t allow the orgasm to come to full term YET. Instead you let your body cool down a little before exciting it again. Allowing the blood in your genitals to build and then settle for a few more times.

One of my favorite things to do is see HOW close to the orgasm WITHOUT the orgasm blossoming.

Think of it as playing a violin and right as you’re about to hit the highest most beautiful note, you bring the bow back down, strum it a little as it gets quieter and start the note all over again.

Eventually bringing you to the most euphoric orgasm you have probably ever had.

Why does edging work?

Oh the wonderful science of edging.

When you get aroused, blood flow increases to your clitoris, vulva, and vaginal walls. Nerves fire, muscles contract, and dopamine (your feel-good “want more” chemical) is flooding your brain. 

But when you hold off on the orgasm, your body keeps pumping blood and releasing dopamine while also stacking up other neurochemicals like oxytocin and prolactin. 

Oxytocin is the cuddle/love hormone.

Prolactin is tied to satisfaction and relaxation. After your orgasm, prolactin helps create that deep “ahhh, I’m good” feeling. It’s like your body’s way of closing the curtain on the show, telling you you’re complete, content, and ready to rest. 

By the time you finally let yourself release, all those chemicals hit like a cocktail and your orgasm is stronger, longer, and often more full-body.

Think of it like charging your phone: if you unplug it at 25%, it works but dies quick. If you let it charge up to 100% (hello, edging), you’re lit up, vibrating, and ready to last. 

So, why does edging give you great orgasms? Because it’s science-backed teasing. You’re not just chasing climax, you’re training your body to expand pleasure, build intensity, and explode with way more fireworks when you finally let go.

This is also a VERY helpful practice for people who struggle with feeling present and staying in the moment during intimate times. Edging requires you to be very self aware and very intuitive when it comes to listening to your body. 

How To Edge

Edging can be done with your hands, a sex toy or even a pillow! 

If you’re edging by yourself I recommend (as always) that you give yourself A LOT of whatever forms of foreplay that you enjoy. This adds to the experience and to the build up. Strumming your genitals ever so often in between but without direct stimulation.

In all actuality, edging is just prolonged foreplay happening over and over and over again. If you’re like me and foreplay is your FAVORITE part of intimacy then edging will probably be your jam.

Once you feel like you’re connected and your energy is vibrating off of your warm excited body, THAT is when you can begin intentionally caressing your genitals in whatever motions feel the best with whatever tools you like that I listed above (hands, toy, pillow etc), be sure to use a vegan lubrication and if you don’t know why, check out this blog where you can learn about the powers of lubrication. 

Next breathe into your body and practice being in the moment, breathwork can help with that, I have tips in my Pleasure Library if you need them.

If you’re edging with a partner, everything above applies! The only difference is to make sure you’re actively communicating with your partner ESPECIALLY when you feel like you’re close to climaxing. This is perfect for people (like me) who used to feel a lot of pressure to orgasm at a certain time.

The Benefits & Conclusion

Edging is my Bestie! It’s one of my favorite forms of self pleasure and really helps me curb that weird feeling that I sometimes feel after a super rushed masturbation session.

Another benefit is that edging can help you experience a heightened orgasm and for people with P’s it can help with preejaculation. 

Because of the amount of foreplay and time that’s required, after I edge I usually feel the most connected to myself, because I truly have to be connected if I’m trying to figure out when I’m about to cum.

And per usual it is VERY important to provide after care for yourself. I talk about in THIS blog | Click Here To Learn How To Provide After Care For Yourself.

Wanna Dive Deeper?

If all of this is making you curious (or even a little tingly), I invite you to dive deeper with me inside my Pleasure Library. It’s a cozy online sanctuary that I created just for women like you. 

It’s a sacred, playful space filled with videos, guided audios, and practical tools to help you explore breathwork, expand your pleasure, and reconnect with your body on a whole new level.

Think of it as your personal treasure chest for pleasure, where science meets sensuality

Ready to explore? Come join the Pleasure Library and let’s breathe, play, and rise together.

I love you to the moon

Xoxo

Love atiya

PLEASURE PLAYLIST

ENJOY MY PLEASURE POSITIVE ABSOLUTELY ORGASMIC MUSICAL PLAYLIST! This is your absolutely orgasmic musical escape. A playlist designed to help you soften, sink in, and fully indulge in your own sensual experience.

These collections feature my favorite songs to pleasure yourself to, along with a few gorgeous recommendations from you, my beautiful community.

Spotify is home to my Top 50 Songs of the Month

Apple Music is refreshed and updated monthly

Press play, breathe deep, and let the music guide you into pleasure.

APPLE MUSIC PLEASURE PLAYLIST

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