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New Years Tips For Uranus | DECEMBER 2023

A is for Anal, Assholes and A is also for Atiya LOL

Why do we make Anal seem like it’s a scary monster that’s been hiding under our bed for years?

I think the scary part is really the “unknown” aspect of it all. We’ve created sooooo much shame around Anal pleasure for people with P’s and V’s so of course some of us would have to do a little work and a lot of research before trusting our bodies (our partners if we have them) and giving it a go.

And when I say we I mean WE. I created this imaginary fear of anal play in my head too, although I became very curious about it over the last three years, I realized I had my own stigmas surrounding anal pleasure. Damn society. 

I partnered with LELO in November and got to explore myself for the first time with their Soraya Beads, here’s a full video review.

Things i’ve learned after trying anal:

  1. It shouldn’t & won’t hurt if you take the right steps to prepare for Anal.

  2. The mood must be set and you must be aroused (this goes for any kind of sex, I can’t harp on this enough)

  3. Consent is everything, even with solo play. There’s no rush. Do it when you’re ready.

  4. Your anus is capable of helping you reach a new never before felt kind of pleasure.

  5. Toys can ABSOLUTELY help. Choose the right one. I recommend the Lelo Soraya Beads.

My two questions for you of the month are:

  1. Are you interested in Anal play?

  2. What’s stopping you from exploring? If you’ve already explored what do you think can help you expand your pleasure when it comes to anal play?

I’ll be talking about anal play in my upcoming podcast episode which dropped TODAY (i’ll include it in the title) so stay tuned for that.

The year is ending soon for us all, I hope you had a healing, fun and sexually explorative year no matter what that may look like for you.

Be sure to check out our previous blogs just in case you missed any of our tips for the year!


I love you to the moon!


Love Atiya

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Listening to my sex positive podcast is like listening to your best friend's hour long voicenote. The Love Atiya Experience is definitely an EXPERIENCE.


In next weeks episode we talk about anal, animals and seasonal depression!


You can click the link above to enjoy all of my podcast shenanigans.


I'm sure this is the main reason why most of you have signed up for my email blast! MY PLEASURE POSITIVE ABSOLUTELY ORGASMIC MUSICAL PLAYLIST! These playlists feature all of my favorite songs to masturbate to, plus a few suggestions from some of you beautiful souls! The spotify playlist features my top 50 songs of the month and the apple playlist and PDF playlist will be updated monthly so stay tuned for next months email which will feature brand new suggestions!


Stay Tuned For Next Months Edition + Pleasure Tips.



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