What Is Squirting? Get To Know Your Juices

What Is Squirting? 

Get To Know Your Juices

Now is when we get juicy. This is probably one of my favorite things to talk about because understanding what this is, can help us become even more familiar with our beautiful bodies. It’s actually the driving force behind how I learned that urine came out of my urethra and not my vagina..

I knew I’d shared this same curiosity with a lot of the world, because one of my most viewed podcast episodes was all about my first time squirting and how I’d achieved such a wonderful feat. So let’s just dive into what we all need to know.

WHAT IS SQUIRTING?

Squirting is what happens when some people with vulvas release fluid through the urethra during intense sexual arousal or orgasm. Your urethra is the little hole above your vagina and under your clit, that you probably didn’t even know was there. 

NO squirting is NOT the same as urination. 

YES you can squirt without having an orgasm. 

“Squirting” is a unique bodily response that can feel completely different for everyone. This is VERY important to remember.

Squirting vs Female Ejaculation

Learning to think of squirting and female ejaculation are sisters, but not twins helped me tremendously. They’re not exactly the same thing, even though people often use the words like they are and ya’ll know how I feel about words!

Female Ejaculation is when your beautiful Skene’s glands — the little jewels tucked right near your urethra, often called the “female prostate” release a few drops of fluid. It’s usually creamy, milky, a little thicker, and it happens in smaller amounts. It’s your body’s secret nectar, dripping out when your orgasm goes deep.

Squirting, on the other hand, is more of a waterfall or even sometimes a geyser. However, there’s a bit of nuance when it comes to squirting vs female ejaculation.

The fluid released during squirting is not always the same as female ejaculate. Female ejaculate tends to be a milky or whitish fluid that comes mostly from the Skene’s glands.

Squirting often involves a mixture including Skene’s gland fluid. We’ll talk more about this in a moment.

This is when the bladder empties out clear, gushing fluid. It’s your body’s way of saying, I’m overflowing, I can’t hold this much pleasure in anymore. Sometimes it sprays, sometimes it streams, sometimes it soaks your sheets. And yes, although science shows it’s connected to the bladder, that doesn’t make it any less sacred or powerful. It actually makes it equally as powerful.

Here’s the truth I want you to hold very close:

Neither one is “better.” Neither one makes you more sexual, more orgasmic, or more womanly. Some women squirt, some ejaculate, some do both, some don’t do either and still, their orgasms are just as real.

Your body writes her own love story. She doesn’t need to look like anyone else’s climax. She just needs to be honored for what she gives you beautiful soul.

CAN EVERYONE SQUIRT?

Squirting isn’t something everyone can or needs to do, and it doesn’t define how “good” your orgasm is. Some people squirt every time they reach a certain level of arousal, some only sometimes, and some never. And guess what… if you haven’t accepted this by now, all of that is completely normal!

WHEN DOES IT HAPPEN?:

Squirting often happens when the G-spot (a sensitive area located a few inches inside the vagina on the front wall) is stimulated. The fluid can feel warm, and the sensations can be intense, spreading through the pelvis and whole body.

Exploring squirting is really about curiosity, connection, and pleasure, not pressure. Be sure to approach it gently:

breathe, relax, explore your sensations, and pay attention to what feels amazing in your body. 

It is EXTREMELY important to remember: pleasure looks different for everyone, so whether or not squirting happens, your experience is valid and beautiful. 

It’s almost important to remember just because you squirt, doesn’t mean you had an orgasm. As I mentioned earlier, you can have one without the other.

Also, please try not to compare your body and your experience with what you see in porn because 9/10 times what you believe you’re seeing, isn’t what’s really happening. 

Adult stars have been known to be very transparent about the things they do in between takes to be able to make their body do magical things (even if that’s chugging water right before they begin filming so they can have that geyser effect with their juices.)

Does this happen naturally for some bodies? ABSOLUTELY. 

All bodies? Absolutely not.

SQUIRITING IS NOT THE SAME AS URINATING!

Last but not least… You read that right. Squiring is not the same as urination.

While squirting releases fluid through the urethra, like urine does, the fluid produced during squirting is different. It mainly comes from the Skene’s glands, or the “female prostate,” which we talked about earlier and contains a mix of water, enzymes, and other secretions, not just urine.

So are there traces of urine found in some studies? YES! Duh. That’s like taking a crap and then pushing a baby out your behind and being surprised the baby has poo on its head (crazy random analogy but you get the point.)

And also, let’s just say that in an alternate universe squirting WAS 100% sexy urine. Urine is literally a liquid waste product produced by your kidneys. It’s made up of water, salts, and other substances your body doesn’t need. The kidneys filter your blood to remove toxins, extra water, and waste, and urine is how your body safely expels them. 

Urine travels from your kidneys through your ureters (the duct by which urine passes from the kidney to the bladder or cloaca.) to the bladder, and when your bladder fills up, it’s released from the body through the urethra.

What is gross about that?

So although squirting & urine come out of the same place (filtered through the bladder and pushed from the urethra) they are NOT the same and even if they were, so the f*ck WHAT?!

Anyways for the Nay-Say’ers here are the key differences:

• Purpose: Squirting is a sexual response, often associated with intense arousal or orgasm, whereas urination is your body’s way of expelling waste.

• Composition: Squirting fluid is chemically different from urine, although small traces of urine may sometimes mix in.

• Sensation: Squirting usually comes with pleasurable, full-body sensations, unlike urination (unless you hold your urine for a really long time but then you may also be asking for a UTI.)

Squirting is a normal and beautiful sexual experience for some people, and it doesn’t mean anything is “wrong” if it doesn’t happen. It’s just one way your body can respond to pleasure.

Now that we know the basics, whether you’re in a relationship or are single as fuck like ya girl (me…I’m ya girl) I have a pleasure tip is for YOU.

First things first if you don’t know anything about squirting or are just really really curious to learn more CHECK OUT THIS PODCAST EPISODE from The Love Atiya Pleasure Podcast.

Now that we’re familiar with squirting, we first must remember, no matter the toy or the way you decide to pleasure yourself or your partner… FOREPLAY IS A MUST and I mean EXTENDED foreplay if you want to experience squirting. Your body has to be highly aroused!!

Again, this is a gentle reminder that all people with vulvas may not have the “ability” to squirt and if you don’t know how to or don’t know if your body is capable that is totally okay, exploring is the fun part, your body is still normal and you are still highly talented.

A TIP FOR HOW TO SQUIRT

Now… the big tip is, EDGE. Your orgasmic experience should feel like a LONG continuous wave of pleasure and right when you think you’re about to reach your peak, regulate your body and your nerves and hormones and start all over again.

THE DEFINITION OF EDGING

Sexual edging is the practice of bringing yourself or a partner close to orgasm and then deliberately stopping or slowing down stimulation before climax occurs. This can be repeated multiple times, prolonging sexual arousal and intensifying the eventual orgasm. You can learn more about edging here.

Edging is super fun because it tests your limits and requires a lot of self control. It’s like revving up an engine while the car is in park & experiencing an extreme adrenaline rush.

Once you master the art of edging (by practicing because it IS a practice) your entire sexual experience will change for the better.

When I was about 24 years old and freshly out of my jacked up relationship I reached out to my best friend. She’d always felt like a safe space for me to be vulnerable so I was excited to share my revelation.

This revelation was that I observed that I’d been stopping myself from feeling new levels of pleasure.

I was stuck in a self pleasure rut. I’d use the same toys. Watch the same porn. Have the same kind of orgasm and feel the same kind of feelings afterward, fulfilled but not completely fulfilled.

That’s when my bestie asked if I’d ever used a toy with suction! She was working at a sex toy shop at the time and had the inside knowledge into all things pleasure. 

She sent me some suggestions and I immediately purchased it! It came in the mail a few days later and I was so intimidated it took a while for me to explore.

I remember the first time I tried this suction toy I was totally overwhelmed. I didn’t realize I had to work past a few unhealthy beliefs before being able to enjoy this toy.

1. I learned I had to use lube and I used to have the belief that my natural lubrication was enough until I learned about the wonders of using vegan lubrication with sex toys ESPECIALLY suction toys!

2. I was thought using the toy on a super high setting would prove I was the queen of pleasure and had an almighty vulva. I am the queen of pleasure and do have an almighty vulva but this vulva usually likes to stick to the first setting.

After I pushed past these two barriers I was all set.

Because the toy was so powerful, even on its first setting, I naturally edged myself for the sake of not overstimulating myself!

After edging and edging and edging some more, I was able to have my very first orgasm with my suction toy but this time, after I orgasmed… I put the toy back on that same spot and went for another go and then another and then another until… I squirted!

When it comes to squirting, I learned that the right toys can absolutely make all the difference. 

Below are my top 3 favorites from my shop that have personally guided me to deeper, more intense squirting experiences:

Here are my top 3

1. The Namii by Biird (external suction & vibrations)

2. The Magic Wand (external vibrations only)

3. The We Vibe Nova 2 (internal & external dual stimulation & g-spot stimulation)

1. The Namii by Biird

This suction beauty holds a special place in my heart & is all about precision and control thanks to her dual suction and vibration features. Her shape is designed to hit the clitoris exactly where she loves to be stimulated, and the vibrations are strong and deep but soft, giving you that perfect push toward release without overwhelming your body. I love how I can explore different angles and rhythms, which is key for triggering that gush we’re looking for. It’s like she was made to teach your body how to squirt. 

2. The Magic Wand

She’s a classic. The Magic Wand is legendary for a reason. Her deep, rumbling vibrations reach through tissue in a way that triggers intense full-body arousal, and for many people, that’s the bridge to squirting. I love using it externally on the clitoris while simultaneously exploring my G-spot internally with another toy (or fingers if you love that!). It creates waves of pleasure that make release almost inevitable. It’s powerful, it’s iconic, and it doesn’t mess around and if you wanna take her for a spin she’s also perfect for anal stimulation. Just make sure you clean your toy before moving it back up to your vulva to avoid spreading bacteria!

3. The We-Vibe Nova 2

This girly pop is a dual-stimulation dream. The Nova 2 genuinely hugs your G-spot with its flexible tip while vibrating against your clitoris at the same time. The synchronized sensations can make your body feel electric, and for me, that combo often leads to a more fluid releasing, spontaneous squirting experience. This was the toy that caught me I climaxed to off of an imagination! No other stimuli except my mind and a sexy text someone had sent me to ponder over.

All in all, you don’t NEED a toy to squirt but all of my squirtatious experiences thus far have been when I used a toy and writing this actually made me excited to explore some alternative ways to practice reaching this level of excitement!

Wanna Go Deeper?

Dive into my Ethereal Pleasure Library for step-by-step pleasure tips, journal prompts, video courses, and an audio library designed to help you unlearn, unwind, and unleash your pleasure.

With love and vegan lube,

Xoxo, Love Atiya

Pleasure Educator | Founder of The Ethereal Pleasure Oasis